Hi.  I’m Aaron Wheeler.  I work for a fortune 500 corparation.  Because of the nature of my work, I have to give speeches all the time.  Over the last 3 years or so, I’ve been invited to attend several black tie events for my job as well as to speek about 7 times at my friend’s and collegues weddings.  People ask me almost every day it seems if I can relate to them how to give a knock-out wedding speech.  Eventually, after friends of mine kept saying “you need to write a book on this topic or something”, they convinced me to put together a web site.  I called their bluff, and here you are.  I hope to give you the best of the tips and tricks I’ve learned from years of giving speeches.  Hopefully they will assist you get ready for any big days like these in the future.

The Wedding Toast

You might end up feeling surprised when you think of how simple a toast seems to give when you are thinkning about it, but how tough it really is when it’s time to go to it.  want that, so we’ll steer clear here so your toast is the best on the block].  Whenever this sort of thing comes up when I’m talking to people, most of them say “it’s nothing.  I can give  toast like nobody’s business,” which most people can, whether they know it or not, but you DO need to practice first.  You actually can do a great toast off the top of your head, and I recommend you do if you think you can, but even those of us who are more experienced in front of a crowd need to know that we have to at least practice by running the minimum outline of our toast through in our heads before the event .  I know a lot of people who admit they put off practice until the night of the toast, likely in their car on their way to the event.  What makes us procrastinate like this?  Fear.  

A toast is like a hello and farewell wrapped into the same little mini-speech.  It’s usually given at the best of times, and it lets everyone there know that there’s something in the person you’re toasting that you appreciate.  Many are a kind of well-wishing for the future, after whichever special event of the day is over, and send off the person with best wishes.

Q:  What if they don’t laugh?

A:  You don’t need them to.  Some people try to make their toast a funny thing, but get freaked out when they start to think that the crowd won’t see it as such.  If you’re not the most experienced public speaker in the world, my advice is not to try to shoot for the stars when it comes to being funny.  A toast that comes from the heart will be much more memorable and appreciated.  Only try to get really comedic if you’re comfortble with the idea, thanks to your past experience, or it’s your normal personality.

Here’s my formula for a great toast:  It’s all of these 3 things wrapped together in this order:  a look back at good times together, a look to the future that is bright, and a tribute to good luck.  To see a detailed breakdown of the above, come see my site on Wedding Toasts and Speeches.

Introduction about wedding speech: Being asked to give a wedding speech is a great honor. However, a frequent mistake is failing to prepare. The true art of delivering a sincere, heartfelt and interesting wedding speech is to prepare well in advance but on the day appear off the cuff and spontaneous. At its simplest, a wedding speech is nothing but welcoming the guests, praising the bride and the groom and wishing them a happy married life! Giving a wedding speech is one of the big moments of a wedding reception, so it is important to know the correct etiquette in doing so.

First the father of bride speech: Your father of the bride wedding speech is not something you should take lightly! Of all the wedding speeches, father of bride is probably the most difficult to write. The love between the father and the daughter is basically the guide that a father needs to write his own father of bride speech. Tip: father of bride weddings toasts can be funny or serious but they must be in good taste.

The second part of the wedding speech is the groom’s speech. The Groom speeches can be hard to write and they can cause you a lot of trouble. You have to thank many people, so keep your groom speech short and light-hearted. Groom speeches are all about paying tributes, showing gratitude, expressing love and saying thanks. In your groom speech thank the wedding guests especially those who have come a long way just to wish you on your wedding day and be a part of the celebration. Conclude this part of your groom speech by thanking your wife. Thank your best man in your groom speech. Close your groom speech with a suitable, famous quote, poem or joke. Remember Groom speeches are great when they are short and to the point!

The third wedding speech is the speech given by the best man. The best man wedding speech is something the whole congregation will be looking forward to, and that is all the more reason why it should not be messed up. The best man man wedding speech is an important task. One good way to wrap up a best man?s wedding speech is to offer a traditional toast. Giving a wedding speech is hard enough, let alone trying to make it funny so be warned!

Consulting a professional to develop your wedding speech is a great way to create the speech you can only dream of writing yourself. However, a cheaper solution is to use one of 20 professional groom speech that can be easily customised to tailor your personality.

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Wow.  What a time in life.  If you’ve been selected to give the Maid of Honor Speech at your friend’s wedding, you are very likely trying to put together some ideas.  Allow me to attempt to provide you with the best of what I know from my years of experience as a professional speaking consultant.

Planning is important, and you’ve done a great thing by looking for information ahead of time.  You would be amazed at how many people ignore the fear they have about public speaking and tell themselves “I’ll figure it out the couple of days beforehand,” “the night before,” or God forbid “in the car on the way to the wedding .  ”By the way, if you’re not nervous, I’m worried.  What I’m trying to convey here is that it’s completely natural to feel anywhere from a bit jittery to completely terrified at the idea of giving a maid of honor speech.  It’s totally normal.  I still get nervous every single time I prepare to speak, whether at a professional engagement, or even a casual dinner.  Okay, now that you know your nerves are normal, let’s look at the maid of honor speech itself.

The technical aspects of the Maid of Honor Speech:

First, you might consider starting by telling the audience who you are, and thanking them for coming.  Then, consider a story or two.  Everyone on Earth likes to hear a story.  The first thing might be something relating to what you thought of the groom when you met him.  This always seems to be a good topic, because it’s perfectly acceptable for you to just slightly poke fun at him, as if to say “I wasn’t really sure about Jim when he first started dating Laura.  He drove this old beat up car and had a slightly strange craving for French fries after midnight.”

Hello!  In case I haven’t had the chance to meet you in person yet, my name is _________.  I’m the maid of honor , and I’m so proud of _______ (the bride).  First, I want to say congrats ________(bride & groom).  In addition , special to _______(the parents of the bride , who likely put on the wedding) and to everyone who came from near and far to be here today with ________(bride and groom) on their very special day.

Keep any pokes you might consider aiming at the groom in your maid of honor speech to a very low level.  As you will probably be sensing just thinking about your past experience, at a wedding, people place the parts of themselves that might be frustrated about the “darker side” of humanity on the back burner.  They are there to experience feelings of happiness, joy and love .  They don’t want to be reminded about the bad things that can come out in people, like greed, lust, pain, etc.  So keep from telling jokes that might hint at these things.  A tiny ever-so-slightly negative comment about the groom is okay, but only once, and try to make it very light.

When I first ran across ____ (groom), I remember wondering if things would work out. I recall him coming to our door (or hearing about him knocking on her door if you weren’t living with the bride) one night at 12 am calling for _____(bride).  He was wearing this old grungy shirt, and I think asked ____(bride) if she wanted to get some french fries.  I had my doubts, but as I got to know ______(groom), I started to see he was an easy person to talk to, he has a good sense of humor, and eventually I realized he was a perfect match for ______(bride).  I want to be the second to say welcome _______(groom) to the family. We hope we can show you the same outgoing and open spirit as you have shown us.

To continue with this exact speech example, see this site: with an example Maid of Honor Speech.